Honestly, am I the one carrying this all? (Q & A: Can one spouse singlehandedly save a marriage?)

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Today's podcast looks specifically at marriage - can one spouse save it if the other spouse continues to be apathetic or try to stay disengaged?

Honestly, am I the one carrying this all?

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